Anger is not the central issue. It is more a symptom of not being in touch with our hearts, and of seeing the other, as the Dalai Lama said, as an independant absolute. He spoke about protest being justified at times when there are situations which are causing suffering, and there may be a need to use harsh, ferocious words or actions to communicate protest. When that is motivated by compassion it is valid. So I would prefer to focus on the need to stay in touch with the heart and compassion as the motivating force behind everything we do, because I think this gets to the heart of my concern.
I would not call it 'altruism', or
'selflessness', as the Dalai Lama did, since that signifies putting
others first, before me, implying sacrifice. The way I see it is when I
am aware that we are all one family, I see my welfare inextricably bound
up with the welfare of others. I see them as My Family. When I show
them compassion I feel good. You could even say I do it for selfish
reasons. Who cares? We all benefit, and that's the point.
has to be moderated by this underlying recognition that my enemy is not
my enemy but is part of my family. I may use harsh words or actions, but
all the time I need to remember I do not do it to punish them, but to
benefit them and me.
How do we establish that we are all one family?
Lama says there is a reality which is to do with 'knowing', but is not
established by scientific measurement, or intellect. That reality which
we know in our bones, in our heart, is what we need to access, and keep
contact with. It is our innate wisdom, buried deep under layers of
'knowledge' learned in school and accumulated through our years of
I was very moved by the Dalai Lama pointing to his
mother as the one who first gave him a taste of this compassion.
Through his education and study he could acknowledge the importance of
her input. How many men would be able to say - actually he didn't use
the word 'love', he said 'affection' - that they had imbibed this from
their mothers. This aspect is to do with reconnecting with the feminine,
something which may come more naturally to a woman. but is certainly
not exclusive to them.
Recording of Dalai Lama http://transformtogether.org/crew/